Tim Raymond, pastor of Trinity Baptist in Muncie, IN (my hometown!), from the Credo Magazine blog:

While every pastoral counseling situation is unique, it’s also true that “no temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man” (1 Corinthians 10:13; ESV). I’m certainly not a professional counselor, but I have done enough biblical counseling to notice some patterns in thinking and interpreting problems. If you do (or hope to do) any amount of pastoral counseling, the following are 20 statements you’ll probably hear at least once or twice (or more) in your ministry. I’d encourage you to think through how you’d respond, and more importantly, what specific passages of Scripture you might connect to each situation. God’s word provides us with “all things that pertain to life and godliness” (2 Peter 1:3; ESV), but we pastors need to know how to bring the Bible to the issues that beset us.

1. “Why can’t I stop myself from doing _____________?”

2. “Why [this suffering]?”

3. “I’ve neglected my wife for 30 years and now she hates me. Can you give us any hope?”

4. “If you were married to her, you would have done the exact same thing.”

5. “But doesn’t God want me to be happy?”

6. “Where did my infant go when he/she died?”

7. “What’s up with this predestination thing?”

8. “I don’t care if nobody sees any fruit of the Spirit in my life. I prayed the prayer when I was 5 and that settles it.”

9. “I don’t think I’m saved but I really want to be saved because I believe Jesus is the only Savior and I’m sure I’ll go to hell without Him.” [Try untangling that one.]

10. “I’m really trying but I just can’t forgive him/her.”

11. “Do I need to forgive him/her if he/she doesn’t ask for forgiveness?”

12. “Constant guilt haunts me because of something evil I did 30 years ago.”

13. “Dude, my sexual desires are just a lot stronger than most guys.” [I think most guys think this.]

14. “Here’s my rebellious teenager. I’ve brought him/her to you because I know that one good talking-to from you, Pastor, will straighten him/her out.”

15. “With all respect, Pastor, when you’re my age you’ll see things differently.”

16. “I just think you’re taking the Bible/Christianity too seriously.”

17. “I know I should read the Bible, but I’m just not much of a reader.”

18. “I know I should pray more/attend church regularly, but I’m just too busy with work/school/sports/hobbies/etc.”

19. “I can see why you’d say that, but I heard the exact opposite from Dr. Oz/Dr. Phil/Oprah/The View/etc.”

20. “I’ve prayed about _____________ dozens of times but nothing ever changes.”

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