Are you facing an obstacle today? Are you asking yourself questions like

  • Why do we have to go through this change?
  • Why aren’t we seeing growth?
  • Who dropped the ball?

​Problems are pre-selected in the mind as coming at us – coming from the outside. Thus the solution or resolution to the problem, in our mind, has to come from the outside. Some call this victim-thinking. That mindset incapacitates and immobilizes. It takes away the capacity to act, because the solution depends on someone or something else moving first. What if there was another way of looking at our problems.

It is counterintuitive, but seeing yourself as the problem is the shortest route to overcoming any obstacle.

A baseline approach to crisis intervention is training counselors to focus questions at the person with whom they are speaking, not the crisis. A technique in personal coaching when helping a person move toward a goal, is to remain focused upon what the person can take responsibility, not what others need to do. Focusing anywhere but the individual allows the entry of blame, complaining, and/or procrastination. The power, control, and authority to enact change in a situation must be placed in the person’s hands.

Tell yourself that you are the problem in whatever circumstance you are in right now. Say I am the problem.  I am the problem.  I am the problem. This is not being negative or pessimistic. It is about being proactive. Now the ball is in your court! The power, control, and authority is in your hands to take action. What are you going to do about your problem?

How to ask yourself proactive questions

Chapter 3 of Flight of the Buffalo 

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